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Kc says:
Wat u think is there some truth abt this survey??!!
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Simukai says:
yes there is some truth in it, because the majority of these cases are people that are actually lead on knowingly and unknowingly , hence resulting in the rape case
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Simukai says:
yes there is some truth in it, because the majority of these cases are people that are actually lead on knowingly and unknowingly , hence resulting in the rape case
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Simukai says:
yes there is some truth in it, because the majority of these cases are people that are actually lead on knowingly and unknowingly , hence resulting in the rape case
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Simukai says:
yes there is some truth in it, because the majority of these cases are people that are actually lead on knowingly and unknowingly , hence resulting in the rape case
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Essu says:
...and we wonder why most of rape and domestic violence cases are never reported? Why the offenders get away with it? Most of the victims are the weak.... who have been made to believe just as the research proved.....
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mukosha says:
I agree with with the survey
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Salim says:
Its 3.39pm EAT and i have already seen 3 panties belonging to women. Panties which I had not planned to see neither did I want to see them.
The order of the day now is that women panties are everywhere dense, Bras are no longer private because, on a broad daylight, they are worn under a net like top, but no a Man's Panty cant be seen even if you search for it......unless you are a surgeon or the Man's lover!.
Rape cases could probably end completely if:
1.Women dress decently i.e Below knee skirts or neat trouser suits.
2.Women stop drinking in presence of Men.
3.Man/Woman mingling is reduced/not extended to privacy.
Good Points, But we cant apply them coz they "Look Islamic" and we have to oppose anything "Islamic" whether bad or good...........to the extent of "We better suffer the consequences"
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Terry says:
an those guys who sag their trousers/baggy jeans an celeb males who want to show the world their boxers an stuff??????an the other shao men who prefer to walk kifua wazi thinking their chests are soo romantic????????
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;LéilaJx says:
There should be NO excuses whatsoever, as far as VIOLATING another HUMAN BEING.
NOT VALID: The excuse that, "just because sweets are openly displayed in a shop", that one should help themselves freely, without paying at the paypoint.
Even if a woman is dressed provocatively, it does NOT give anyone the RIGHT to RAPE. This should NEVER EVER be used as an excuse.
RAPE is RAPE is RAPE!
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Asiyo says:
I do not have any reason to rape any lady....whether she's naked before me.....in fact, to me, ladies are more sexy in clothes than when naked. But because the world is not made of me alone......let us dress decently no one wants to see our nakedness, we're not the only ones that have beautiful chests, boobs, butts, thongs.....etc.
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Terry says:
now that kaka S has never been a woman,he might not experience that (some)women get burns painful ones as a result in them thighs particularly wen its soo hot an u r clad in loong clothes an all the heat remains down there,personaly id rather wea a short skirt than walk in that funny way bcoz my thighs are all burnt up as a result of avoiding rape,
whoever rapes will rape enen a child and old long dressed women because of a wicked mind not dressing!!!!
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Simukai says:
but doesnt it lead to the rape case after that.
take for example the sweets thingy. you like to see the sweets until you actually want to take some, in your mind you have already taken it all that was left was the action. now with women and dressing its the same thing but now you are dealing with a higher hormonal issue
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Terry says:
how many kids always want sweets on the shop shelves an how many actually steal,if kids know its ok to want and not steal,how come grownups cant reason the same way????
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Simukai says:
tell me how many times kids take sugar from the shelve without us watching. i think that answers your question
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;LéilaJx says:
Is there any excuse for a man to rape his best friend's wife, because the woman is very pretty, or maybe provocatively dressed?
It's okay to look, but it's NOT okay to touch NOR take by force.
RAPE is RAPE is RAPE!
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Simukai says:
i am not saying that rape is some mans way of saying that probably he is mentally unstable, i am saying look at both sides of the coin.everything is possible so protect ur ass before it is hocked
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Terry says:
rape is rape is rape,its no sweeets nor sugar nor fun,whoever does it shame shame shame an shud be castrated,period!!!
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Simukai says:
that i am totally with you , cut the little items of, you should ask for it hy. lol
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;LéilaJx says:
Indeed Terry, if kids know that they're not supposed to steal sweets in the shops, just because they're attractively displayed; why can't grown men see sense too, and NOT steal, ie NOT RAPE using the excuse that the woman was provocatively dressed, and so she deserved it?! NEVER NEVER NEVER take what's not yours, and what has NOT been given to you as a man or woman!
NO ifs, NOR buts...
RAPE is RAPE is RAPE!
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Terry says:
talking of dressing,i hope no one will argue about bestiality an such nonsense the same way,those who rape dogs and chicken and goats better not say the animals were naked or wore provocatively,its just wickedness and lust and lack of manners/adabu!!!!!!its a matter of restraining that small thing an doing the necessary with the right person at the right time!!!!
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Salim says:
Look here @terry and @Halwa.
You know its good to debate with facts.
1.You cant leave your mobile phones in the open and say "A thief is a Thief even if I lock them up"
Can you define the Word "Temptations"?
2. You cannot tell somebody not to eat Honey and then place it in front of him dripping slowly and expect him not to get "Tortured"
I myself can never rape a woman coz she is dressing provocatively, instead I pity her.This does not mean I dont get aroused when I see nice round thighs in the open, sometimes i even wet myself when the display is long enough. So what do I do not to rape them?, I restrain myself. Now there are the moderate men who cant restrain themselves, All they require is "Privacy" i.e being able to Rape the woman without being caught. Men get aroused very Quickly, and I repeat, very very Quickly, Just by sight!!, Anything less than that is not a normal Man.
Those who rape children are extreme cases we should not bring to the debate unless we want to argue without debating.
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Terry says:
rape is still rape,its lack of commonsense,kids also,even women may salivate at sweets an chocolete but they dont steal,it is lack of proper upbringing and adabu,u salivate/get aroused and keep it to uaself,not enterring every hole u lay ua hands on,its lack of manners i repeat!
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Simukai says:
nice one salim, i think now terry gets teh point i am rying to put through
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Terry says:
as i said,its lack of adabu, an that small thing shud be thrown to the dogs if rape occurs
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Salim says:
@ Terry "an that small thing shud be thrown to the dogs if rape occurs"
Halafu wewe utaklobwa na nini?
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kwame says:
@salim and simukai, why are u justifying animalistic tendencies like rape and wanna force women to accept part of the blame.There is no excuse whatsoever for rape; talkig abt temptations dont u thick men also temps women sexually, how many times have u heard awoman or gal rape a man? I think rapists should be put to death or jailed for life ,they should be wiped off the face of the earth.
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Terry says:
NA MWENYE HAJARAPE, of course i will do it with those who will remain with theirs,i will only kosa one if all men are rapists
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kwame says:
@TERRY, translation pls i speak ashanti (twi)
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Terry says:
@Johnso,i mean someone asks me who will do me if all men are castrated an i say not all men are rapists so of course some men wil be intact so i will still get a well mannered man
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Salim says:
@Terry, how do you know that the one who deeply satisfied you the other day has never raped in his life? if it was cut then, may be it could be cold on your side........psyc.
@Johson, you are forgetting that we are talking about Research result.
Conduct yours wherever you are and rest assured you will get the same results.
Women Raping Men?.........we garr no Boobs my friend and am 100% sure the sight of our naked Buttocks cant arise a woman.
Look, even when you are already erect and on bed with a woman, you must undergo rigorous arousal measure to her if you dont want to "Rape" her.
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Terry says:
@Salim,if it was cut,i wil definetely see,and anyway there are men who are naturally well mannered an will not rape just becoz they are aroused......
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kwame says:
@ TERRY, tell salim people like me will be around to satisfy ur sxxx needs
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kwame says:
@salim forget abt that crazy, psycho and rapist researcher. Whoever justifies rape and blame it on the victim is crrraaaaazy
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;LéilaJx says:
SALIM: Whatever temptations in life, people have to restrain themselves from acting on the temptation. Humans are NOT dogs. There are a lot of beautiful things in life, and if they don't belong to us, we're supposed to just ADMIRE the object or person, but NOT take the object, NOR take the person [ie rape] the person.
No matter how much we salivate over something, we must NEVER EVER take, if it does NOT belong to us.
No matter what JUSTIFICATIONS I hear, the point is still that, one must NEVER EVER RAPE, no matter how nicely wrapped the object is, ie no matter how provocatively or seductively dressed.
So, I reiterate, RAPE is RAPE is RAPE!
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;LéilaJx says:
ALLAN: Thanks! Great examples indeed...
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kwame says:
Rapists are psycho . fact
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;LéilaJx says:
Rapists should be CASTRATED - My wish!!!!!!
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kwame says:
@LJ, RAPISTS are freaks without the D....K THEY WILL STILL USE OTHER IMPLEMENTS OR INSTRUMENTS TO GET THE PLEASURES THAT THEY DESIRE. I think they need to die or sentence to life imprisonment with hard labour and in isolation. rapists are monsters they need to die.
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;LéilaJx says:
ALLAN: F should be left to be what he is.
X should not try to change F's sexuality and find herself a boyfriend [if she wants to]. X should be admired by guys, since she's a looker, but NOBODY should rape her.
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kwame says:
@Allan ,F is fake,a liar and a rapist who needs to die for such an abominable act. X should be consoled and be giving every assistance available, and bachelors like u should comfort her and keep her company.
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;LéilaJx says:
JOHNSON: Indeed, rapists are not just freaks, but MONSTERS... As for their punishment, I think they should be CASTRATED as well as incarcerated/imprisoned [with hard labour] for a very long time... Maybe they'll even be asked to PICK UP THE SOAP off the floor, while in prison...
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;LéilaJx says:
Oops I didn't read Allan's stuff carefully. So F raped X. Well, if that's what F did, he should be punished accordingly...
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;LéilaJx says:
ALLAN: I'm confused now. Did F rape X? As for F's sexual orientation; that's irrelevant. F being X's flatmate, should inform X about his sexuality/sexual orientation, if he feels comfortable with doing that. However, he's NOT obligated to reveal it, and he's got every "right" NOT to "come out of the closet" if there's the fear of persecution around him.
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kwame says:
@lj I can see you are pro life and against the death penalty but pls spare me this RAPISTS MUST DIE
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;LéilaJx says:
JOHNSON: Cool... It's okay for all of us, to sometimes agree to disagree. That's what makes the Board tick. Anyway, I'd rather not go into the issue of death penalty on this particular post.
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Chepman says:
GIVE US A BREAK LADIES!! What the hell is this thing about RAPE being RAPE being RAPE.., You know everyone, LADIES included have this RAPE instincts....it is only that they are the weaker sex, otherwise men would be ducking into bushes whenever this ladies appear. And anyway, even if the ladies wanted, it would take a hell of effort to fan that "Snake" into "ready" state.
All of you ladies should learn to clad decently, act lady-like and please don't provoke men and imagine that they are devoid of feelings, I am speaking on behalf of this creature called man, who of late has become a "beast" under pressure from all angles, and who is expected to remain calm and collected under all circumstances. Do your bit, then and only then will we talk of castrations and all!!
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;LéilaJx says:
ALLAN: Thanks for the clarification. In that case, as I said above, F should be left alone to carry on living his life with his sexual orientation intact. However, he should offer sympathy, empathy, and should offer X a shoulder to cry on. Z should be punished according to the law of the particular country. Hahaha regarding your disclaimer, ie Z not standing for Zuma...
CHEP: Regardless of how women dress, it's not men's right to rape, and the excuse of seductive or provocative dressing, should NEVER ever be used... period. Again, RAPE is RAPE is RAPE... Men need to control their brains in controlling their 'snakes'/'willies'...
Men's brains should not work the same way as DOG's brains. RESTRAINT is the way to go. Women have a right to dress whichever way they want, without having to suffer through the experience of rape. Are you now going to tell me that men have a right to rape women dressed in swim suits at the beach or around swimming pools? Should female swimmers wear very THICK BODY SUITS for SWIMMING? Thick non-figure-revealing body suits would guarantee all female swimmers drowning!
Maybe all women should now wear very thick SACKS like 'garbage bags', right?
Respect!
RESTRAINT!
SELF-CONTROL!
Restraint is the key!
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Kc says:
Yanii I better keep mum coZ!!Wacha tuu so those minis I like r dangerous!!
Salim & Chep just made me cry tears of laughter afta reading this post from their perspective!!!Wat abt a rapping friend. or hubby...wat r we gonna say abt them??!!Well, sometymes a woman decides she only wants to sleep is that a crime, laying on bed with ur friend or hubby & not wanting or wishing 4 anything sexual??So whose to blame Salim, Simukai & Chep if this woman getz raped???
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Kc says:
Leila, hatz up, ur really not amused abt this so called "animals"!!!Well, so that raping should stop women, should just cover all their tempting body partz........At least...Essu, Johnson,Allan,Terry r against raping.& saying itz not the woman to blame!!!!
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;LéilaJx says:
KC: Indeed, I cannot help but feel very strongly about this subject. It just doesn't make sense to me at all, regarding the meaningless excuses! Just because I see some really gorgeous hunks on the streets and I salivate, does not give me the right to go to them, and grab their crutches, and stick my tongue down their throats. I admire at a distance with my eyes, then just walk away and carry on with my business.
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: Any kind of PHYSICAL FORCE involving NON-CONSENT of the second party is RAPE... regardless of the LOCATION and regardless of the non-consenting person's ATTIRE. NOBODY deserves to be RAPED; and NOBODY has the RIGHT to RAPE!
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Chepman says:
LJ: I will say this over and over until such a time as to elicit some understanding from whoever. Everyone abhors Rape, but when a woman wakes up in the morning and wiggles her "moonchies" down the streets with parts of her privates oozing from below some wee bit Skirt, what the hell is she trying to tell the entire man-world? Is that not a pure come hither gesture? And so why cry out like a lunatic when you get what every sensible brain thinks you deserve after leaving those tunnels soo accessible even flies have no problem Cris-crossing in and out of it unabashed?
I think Men also undergo Mental Rape in such situations!!
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: I will do the same as you, and say it over and over:
NOBODY deserves to be RAPED; and NOBODY has the RIGHT to RAPE!
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Kc says:
PP,I beg u a padon, Hallo,!gehts noch....? I asked a question & never made my statements so where does my jungu part come in??Ur talking like someone who does exactly that, rape ur woman if she refuses to sex, afta all she's ur property ain't she??
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;LéilaJx says:
KC: Exactly! NO means NO!!
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Chepman says:
@LJ: Then let us all also stop RAPING MAN MENTALLY!!
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: How are we raping men mentally? Enlighten me please.
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D. says:
Rape is about narcissism,psychosis,anarchy, kidnapping,and control.Women would be able to walk around naked,and not be attacked, if mankind ever truly evolves.Rapists attack women because they are sick fucks,not because of the way these women are dressed! Is a 80 year old woman asleep in her bed, who is subsequently attacked and raped,"asking for it" by being too seductive ?
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Chepman says:
What do you call FORCING one's self into a man's mental frame and Subjecting him to severe whirling of emotions in his imagination and system?
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: Yes, of course, there are varying CIRCUMSTANCES... and varying degrees of punishment, accordingly.
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: hahaha! Are you implying that I've been raping you mentally this evening? We're DISCUSSING, my Pluton brother... Anyway, regarding what you just mentioned above, I think it's not anything to do with rape, but a case of one individual being more domineering [verbally/vocally] than another in discussions between a couple.
D: Indeed, how do people justify the rape of old women sleeping innocently in their beds, and being attacked by some maniac in the middle of the night; or even the case of very young children being raped.
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Kc says:
Chep, when I brought this post up........itz while I get tired of reading abt rape!!Ad then comes Salim & u........OMG with not soo bad ids why women get raped....!!Thz guyz coz I got to see the other side of the coin......with humour with it dispite this topic being a very deadly & life threatening topic.......thinking of those killing brutal...rapists!!
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Chepman says:
C'mon LJ, you are missing the point. When a woman goes to a pole and dances with some "underwire' or walks around with bare bottoms and a skirt that is shyly covering the goodies, what do you think is happening to any man's mind and emotions at the sight of all that?
You should watch some music called Booty popping by ludacris (Just an example) and get my drift!!
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Chepman says:
Hahaha KC...thanks for the post...now we are putting down from men's point of view.
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: Pole dancing is done in clubs for entertainment, be it ogling, leering or whatever; but it's NOT a call for, "come and rape the dancers"!!
A dance is a dance, be it 12/9/6/12 kind of hoochi booty dance, or whatever; it's just that, a dance, and NOT a call for, "come and rape the dancers"!
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Kc says:
Leila.. & D....this is a very serious topic but some pipo r good at diverting my attentions.......by saying women mentally rape them.....Iam Sure Salim & Simukai would say the same LOEST!!!Iam cracking soo... at this point!!!Iam sure if a lawyer presenting his facts like that infront of the judge, they whole court room would crack without really wanting to!!!
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Kc says:
Kwenda, PP, I happen to like Kaos......They r gentlemen!!!
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: Naah, I'm not dropping it. Rape is rape is rape! Punishment: accordingly...
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Kc says:
Rape is a crime.... weather itz done to a woman not well dressed or to a galfriend or wife!!!
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Chepman says:
KC and LJ: Please don't make light of my case about Men being mentally Raped. And don't think that men confuse between women who dress up to catch the "eye" of a man, and those who do so to catch the attention of the man's dick. Those two are quite different and as one "warms up" a man's feelings of tenderness, the other sure causes a tornado of wild emotions within the groins!
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Chepman says:
And by the way Leila, is there no better form of entertainment that can come from Women apart from gyrating their booties and boops on poles, fields, clubs etc?
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: Nobody is handcuffed and forced into pole-dancing establishments!! The guys who go into such places, go by choice, and they're informed of the club's rules of, "no touching" the dancers!
Regarding your question: it's a matter of satisfying DEMAND for such dances... Different strokes, for different folks...
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Chepman says:
True PP, and at the end of the day no body gives a damn about the mental anguish men go through day after day. And the sad part of it is the fact that this mental bombardment is flooding every area a man can breathe, from Commercials, music, church, magazines, movies, just to name a few!! GOSHHHHHHHHHHH Shit sheit sheitan, where will Man hide from all these?
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: Call it whatever, regarding men's mental anguish[?]; using physical force without a woman's consent is rape; and should be punished accordingly.
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Kc says:
Kwendeni Chep &PP; this tempting sport was invented by a man, he found out the best way to earn money, by using women to lock the men into bars or stripe locals.....Well all those las vegas bars r mostly owned by men..........pimps r men.........First kick urselves 4 being taken a ride by ur fellow men who knew ur weakness inside out!!Those plastic surgiens that found out the best way to increase those milk shakes were men........Coz u guyz r never satisfied with wat GOD gave u!!!Thz God ur ding dongs, none has found the perfect way to enlarge them......with out complications!!!!!!!THZ GOD!!!
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;LéilaJx says:
KC: Wow, "ding dongs"!
PP/CHEP: Remember Roxxxxy? Well, Roxxxxy's waiting...
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Kc says:
HaHaHaHa Leila, u bet...........Roxxy is waiting 4 test drive!!!!
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;LéilaJx says:
hahaha! Indeed, Roxxxxy's "hungry"; and Chep and PP have fled!
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Kc says:
PP, no man has a right to rape his wife or galfriend!!!Yep forced sex IS RAPE((Sex without consent Is Rape))!!!Ad don't tell me the bullshit ur a raising soldier!!!
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Chepman says:
If I was allowed to deal with the whole issue of rape and rapists and the raped, I would only get me myself an exterminator and go extinguish all pedophiles, Grandmother f**kers, innocent-lady-f**kers, and all women (young, old, blue, red, black, white,...) who blatantly and shamelessly RAPE the minds of men...period. And we all move to other important issues.
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: Maybe you think in terms of a wife being a man's PROPERTY, as an OBJECT and not a human being with feelings. The wife, having to be ever-ready, and put out, no matter what, and should be physically forced, ie raped whenever a man feels like it!
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;LéilaJx says:
Roxxxxy's "hungry"!
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: General emotional/psychological abuse can go both ways!
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Chepman says:
Roxxxy is Good for a RAPED mind.
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: Okay then... if that's your solution and cure!
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Chepman says:
I guess more Roxxxies, less Rapes, au vipi Leila?
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;LéilaJx says:
CHEP: I guess, Roxxxy is a short-term solution for over-sexed insatiable dudes... besides other solutions, but NOT and NEVER rape!
PP: With due RESPECT, regardless of IDEOLOGY, rape is wrong [even in married couples]! Please don't take the discussion personally... Please don't get offended! We're discussing hypothetical situations.
PEACE!
RESPECT!
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Kc says:
HaHaHaHaHa!! Yanii u guyz r briliant!!!Really defending the male world!!But gueses wat? Leila & I gonna knock out ur teeth b4 we allow ur funny sides to win!!!
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Kc says:
PP, hates to think when he forces his woman into sex itz rape........coz i have that funny id that thats what.....he would do if his woman was not in the moods!!Afta all women belong to their men!!!
Leila......do u rememer that storo I made up at Steve's kiss post!!!Well he mentioned himself that women shoudn't wonder if they get raped!!Aftall they asked 4 it!!!
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: Thank you! However, I remain adamant and will say rape is rape, though of course, there's a difference in the degree of offence, between COMMON RAPE and MARITAL RAPE. With due respect... So there's no "cutting of" any "crap", okay? What's real is real... It is, what it is, RAPE!!
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;LéilaJx says:
KC: Yup, I remember... the gist of "women asking for it"... Amazing, that people still think that way. I find that way of thinking, very stone age... They didn't think that way, even in the "Flintstones"!
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Kc says:
Wacha wewe PP,.........rape is rape....& u seem not to want to get it through ur head!!!
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: I too, use the word, "crap" sometimes, when the need arises... It's just a common cliché. I'm cool as a cucumber and NOT upset at all. I thought you were the one that was getting upset. So no biggie, if we're both cool, and can continue to agree to disagree gracefully, on the issues raised.
I'm off to have some dinner now, and will be back to disagree with you again.
Peace!
Laterz.. TBC!
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Kc says:
Leila,......this guy needs a knock out 4 his crude ways LOEST!!!!
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Asiyo says:
Yeah....PP and Chepman...The male gender is being pushed too far. There is no way I one can rape my spouse.
If we try sleeping there like a dead-log, somebody will run to court claiming her conjugal rights....and if you have it with her, her mood have to be checked first...these people are really pushing us(forcefully) to the Koinange streets of the world.
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;LéilaJx says:
I despair! This is all soooo frustrating, perplexing, confounding, buggering, discomfitting, etc etc etc... I might as well try riding my bike over water!
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;LéilaJx says:
PP: Regarding your SWEEPING statement above, about ladies loving crooks and the desire to get raped every now and again; do you yourself, enjoy getting bashed and beaten to a pulp every now and then? If so, and your lady happens to be the type you just described and you love getting beaten up, then it means both of you CONSENTED and you're into SADO-MASOCHISM; which is a totally different issue.
RAPING is a one-sided act, with the use of VIOLENT PHYSICAL FORCE over somebody who's physically WEAKER than yourself. Bullying [physical] along with machismo is closer to CANINE behaviour than normal HUMAN behaviour...
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ABDULLAHI says:
@LJ and Terry... sweets dont pump blood to a muscle between the legs...FACT
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Kc says:
Domestic violence is something we should not encourage, because it sets partners apart. Our mothers are most of the time the victims.It is a killer and we have to fight it.
Solomon Okpoti, Ghana
Any woman who has been beaten or sexually assaulted should immediately report the crime to the police. Abuse is something that should never be hidden.
Tatiana Balenah, Atlanta, USA
Assaults against women either physically, emotionally or sexually should at all times be made public. Our community must learn what is morally wrong and not what is based on the African taboo.
Joseph Gayo, Australia/Sudan
Your head might tell you to leave an abusive spouse, but the heart says what about love?
Mwenda Ikiara, Kenya
It is important to remember that what in essence we are examining, is the conflict between the heart (emotions) and the brain (reason). Your head might tell you to leave an abusive spouse, but the heart says "what about love?"
Mwenda Ikiara, Kenya /USA
Many women fear to reveal these acts of abuse because they have no protection after the problem has been reported and known publicly. There are many divorces among Sudanese who have resettled in U.S because southern Sudanese traditionally beat their wives and this prohibited in U.S.
Peter Tuach-Sudanese/USA, USA
In Senegal, especially in the Cassamance region where I have been working for the last three years, many husbands still beat their spouses, which in many cases results to serious body injuries.
Alpha Jallow, Senegal
For men who abuse those they claim to love; how do you feel when your loved one is in pain?
Cornelius Gligui, Moscow
I have not been a victim of domestic violence but over the years I have seen these events happening. Most women do not report the issue for fear of losing their husband to another woman. Women are soft creatures who desire peace from their partners; and telling is certainly not a good thing to do for their relationship. In Africa, the woman is expected to obey the man. People still believe that a husband beating on his wife is a family matter that can easily be settled in the bedroom but the truth is it is worse than that. Greedy, cowardly men, yearning for power think that abusing a woman is the way to show his strength. I believe that the issue should be dealt with by the law in extreme cases, especially when evidence is available on the woman's body.
Estella, Liberia
I think the way some men treat their wife/partner is not only terrible but primitive as well. No matter how a man is angered or offended he should not loose his senses but rather behave wisely by controlling his tempers and find an amicable way to sort things. For men who abuse those they claimed to love; how do you feel when your loved one is in pain?
Cornelius A. Gligui, Moscow, Russian Federation
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Survey: Women Should Take Some Of Blame For Rape
Survey: Women should take some of blame for rape
Majority of women questioned in a survey said they think some rape victims should take responsibility for what happened.
Women should take some of blame for rape Up to three quarters of women said if a rape victim consented to getting into bed with the assailant before an attack took place, she should accept some responsibility.
One third blamed victims who dressed provocatively or who had gone back to the attacker's home for a drink.
The survey questioned over 1,000 people in London, marking the 10th anniversary of the Haven service for rape victims.
Over half of the people questioned, from both sexes, felt that there were circumstances whereby the victim should burden some of the blame.